My heart is torn for you, I'm in the same situation, there is no safty net when someone is injured and can't work. I can only offer prayers... for both of us.

I wanted to share a little something I've learned through giving and having at times recieving.

I have given quite a bit in my life, and have come to understand that when one gives money or resorces to someone else in need, the best policy is to realy let it go, as if you never had it in your possetion, than to learn to forget about it, and very important to never bring it up again. unless it is part of a testimony or something like that, best if you tell nobody of your deed and also part of giving is to not expect it back, from the same resourse that you gave to.

To many people it is more difficutl to recieve, yet, in this spiral of injury, rejection, etc I found that I had to learn to recieve help, for me a much harder thing to do. I've always known that you will be blessed for your giving in one way or another if you truely give, and let go. yet, what i didn't know and latter found out, that you should recieve with as much joy as you give because if you don't truely recieve what is given to you than the person that is giving won't get thier blessings.

It takes hard work to give to someone with out making them feel like a looser or low life, or a begger, but if you put some effert into your giving and ensure that the reciever is truely recieving with joy, than you can count on being blessed. and for those of you that find yourself of having to recieve help, do so with joy and thanksgiving, and sure enough the person that gave to you will be blessed, and should not regret letting go of thier gift.

Granted, after being in both situations I do find it to be true as the old saying goes  "it is better to give than to recieve" it does feel a whole lot better to give, and much more fun!

I thought I'd share this especialy for those that are having a hard time asking for help, I have found that after recieving help, that then I'd always run into someone even worst off than I, and because someone helped me than I am able to help someone else. It can be a never ending cycle that makes life a whole lot nicer.

QTpie78 posted: "I feel when you can help people you should the blessings will come back to you 10 fold." I have to agree with you, way over a year ago, I helped an elderly woman raising her great grandson by herself, he is 2 years old now, and yesterday with out even asking she called me up and offered to get firewood for me, I didn't want to but I had to accept, she had remembered what it was like to struggle so much, she said it was just in her heart to do, And even though I barely remembered the help I gave her, she remembered it well and even though I thought my help was small... she thought it was huge. It's pretty amazing what effect following what is in your heart to do good, has on other people, and realy amazing when those good acts come back to you when you need it most. So today I know God did not forget, and thats the best feeling in the world.

Hi Emil, the best that I can figure is that you are one of the creators of aidpage, I thank you and the rest of the team. Right off the bat I recieved good encouragement and much needed prayer. Joining was very easy and did not have to put in alot of personal information, also editing is very easy. I still am having trouble with the information pages and posting but determined to get it, right now I keep going around in circles lol. Once again thank you and the team.

wow, I would never expect such words as "respect" or "admire" to be pointed at me at this time. That brings tears of healing, and so does the very strong prayer that you posted. I thank you, for taking time to encourage and pray.

hello, I live in WV, I was in an accident, spine and head injury, when I could not work, my husband dumped me (after using up my small med settlement), he said I was of no use to him anymore. My son 14 years old worked midnights and went to school days to take care of us, we where able to finaly get into a very old 11x50 trailer. eventually food stamps and welfare so he did not have to work so much, until he turned 18, then welfare stopped and now he has moved out because this beat up trailer gets very cold in the winter and very hot in the summer and is dangerous for visitors, (the floors are flimsy).

I get medicare and foodstamps and some gas for heat paid because the state doctors find me unable to work though the ss doesn't and I am in appeal for disability, I don't get anyother assistance like  or electricity, water,sewage, prescriptions, car insuranse or money etc I try and sell plant stuff that grow on my lot on the web, I do not have a greenhouse and can not till or cultivate the soil, but average about  $100 a month this helps me with exercise and I can do it, I drive an old car too, just about everything has been sold, I keep my computer to sell so I will be independent and use it to relearn how to use it, and type, I am in need of work,

I can work some days but without warning and I will be down for hours to many days, then I would get fired. I make a craft that I sell for about 7 orphans may get education, in a refugee camp, and grow herb that helps kill the malaria, that they drink as tea, I send it for free for the children since they are even poorer than I, and many die. Some months, I sell more of thier craft than mine and i send them what is thiers even though I have little to nothing to pay my own bills, because that is what the people buy thier craft for.

On good days I drive people to appointments and the store, who can not drive or are poor for free or sometimes they buy gas  I also grow vegatables and share with niebors.

I could go back to my husband, he wants me back and is nice part of the time but then he changes without notice, he is not consistant in, saftey, provision, love, friendship, care, support, sanity etc,  he will not pay for my co pay or prescription, medical bills, or a hair cut though he could and he has my med settlement and makes me work hard serving him, that i end up bedridden in pain then he puts me down, and screams withholds nesseseties from me and scares me with his drill sargent threats until I get hystarically frightened and then I can't eat, shake, can't move and want to die. so I am better staying here and getting myself independent, the ss disability does not care if I end up homeless nor hungry or stuck in a abusive and neglectful home,  while I wait for a hearing.

Even though I am slow now, and many days I can't think straight, Sometimes people will have me come in and unscramble thier computers before hiring a proffessional, only one case I recommended a proffessional because lightening struck and they needed to recover from a mother board from another computer, which I don't understand. I have been offered jobs but could not take them because many days I could not move because of the pain.

I am activly seeing doctors to put an end to this pain and spasms. I need work, or/and help with my projects to sell, or/and help with a leaky roof or even just underpinning installed (right now rotten wood and plastic and plastic kroger bags for insulation) and it is still very cold or/and the garden tilled,  and/or the wood cut, and/or green house, I want to be able to fish more than be given fish. I supose I am a farmer at heart, and it is something I can do to help others as well as help myself , in between the bad days when pain and spasims keep me in a ball or bed ridden. If I am self employed I won't fire myself when I can't get up or move.

If none of this is possiable, I could use a good friend with interests in farming/csa/markets/ herbal/horticulture and /or using the internet, I would be good with "help desk" type job, or simple web design or accounting or stock inventory data, that could teach me how to make this work, I am good in customer service and like to solve problems, research, loyal to the reputation of the work, efficient on good days, and know how to communicate even when someone is having a hissy fit. I am not good at telemarketing or cold calling. Because of the disabilities I am unable to be a perfectionist, have to rework many times, work slowly and without warning bedridden a many hours to a few days a week, mentaly I am forgetful but use sticky notes. I haven't any money for startup, and also need "babysitted" as to be reminded at times and need help with organization, this is getting better though.

This way I don't have to be abused and neglected or homeless to stay alive, especially if I don't get disability, I am using legal aid, so I don't know what will happen, I also am using the state child enforcement to try and get the unpaid child support paid but they aren't doing anything either. couple years ago I paid an attorny with the last money I had to get it, he took my money but I never got the childsupport. If it weren't for God and my friends, and church, I'd say life pretty much sucks right now. If nothing else, thanks for letting me get this off my chess. God Bless you.